PODCASTS

The first podcast, which I have listened was about the ways of success. The topic name was "What leads to success".It was really very interesting topic, which focus all my attention.

Richard St. John spend several years interviewing hundreds of successful people. So two people talk about Richard's presentation.

Really success depends on how you respond opportunities on your way. Not only innate talents but also practise, hard practise a the key of success.And I agree with speakers opinion that person can't be good at all things, he or she have to pick the thing,which they like and practise very hard.People have to work with passion, they have to love what they do. Successful people says that they work with love and motivation.They work hard, but they feel fun.

This podcast lasts 8 minutes. If you want to listen it, then go to http://www.betteratenglish.com/

It is really understandable and interesting podcast.The speech is quite slow, althought it was upper-intermediate level.

Another podcast was a little bit useful for avoiding grammar mistakes.The podcast was: "Grammar mistakes that make you look like a dork: its vs. it's"

The speaker said that not only english learners do mistakes but also people whom english is the native language. Particularly peole do mistakes when words sound the same but are wroted differently.
One of the mistake is confusing it's and its so speaker suggest several things to avoid this mistakes.
When you write, ask yourself if the it’s/its you’re about to write means it is or it has. If it does, then you can use the it’s form WITH an apostrophe. If it doesn’t make sense, then you need the its form WITHOUT an apostrophe.
The second thing you should do is use the find feature of your word processing software to search for all instances of its (no apostrophe) and it’s (with apostrophe). For each instance you find, perform the it is / it has test or the his-her-their pronoun test. If you take the time to do this, you will never risk turning in piece of writing containing this dorky grammar mistake.
This podcast was from the same site as the first one.This listening was advanced level and sometimes it was harder to understand than the first one.Also this topic was not so interesting as the firs but it was more useful for grammar skills.

Psychological abuse

Psychological abuse or emotional abuse refers to the humiliation or intimidiation of another person, but is also used to refer to the long-term effects of emotional shock.

Nowadays this type of abuse feel women, students also teachers, waiters and many other speciality people.

Emotional or psychological abuse are often felt in families.

Emotional abuse can be difficult to pin down because there are no physical signs to look for. Sure, people yell at each other, express anger, and call each other names sometimes, and expressing anger can sometimes be healthy. But emotional abuse generally occurs when the yelling and anger go too far or when a parent constantly belittles, threatens, or dismisses a child until the child's self-esteem and feelings of self-worth are damaged. And just like physical abuse can cause physical scars, emotional abuse can bring about emotional damage.

Psychological abuse could have many consequences in the future, particularly if this type of abuse is used for children.

Psychological abuse can make the person feel "less of a person". It diminishes the person's sense of identity, dignity, and self-worth. Abused people often find that psychological or emotional abuse is the most hurtful form of abuse.
Psychological abuse may make a person fearful or cause the person mental anguish. This may be done in several ways, including by:
-making the people uncertain about themselves and their abilities (lowering their self esteem),
-threatening some form of violence, or
threatening to abandon or neglect the person.
Psychological abuse includes behaviours such as:
-Name calling,
-Yelling,
-Insulting the person,
-Threatening the person or threatening to take away something that is important to them,
-Imitating or mocking the person,
-Swearing at them,
-Ignoring,
-Isolating the person,
-Excluding them from meaningful events or activities.
Psychological abuse also happens when the adult is excluded from decision making when the person is capable and wants to be included (in other words, "making decisions for them"), and depriving them of their rights.

The Abuser
The psychological abuser has a desire to control the other person. By undermining your self-confidence, the abuser limits your ability to act independently.

What to do:
Know that it’s not your fault. You do not deserve to be told hurtful things.
Talk to someone you trust. It may be an Elder, teacher, relative, friend or counselor. Let this other person know what it is that bothers you. If nothing else, they can tell you what a valuable human being you are.
Avoid the abuser. If possible, try to avoid the person who is verbally abusing you. If it’s a close family member, try to limit the amount of time you spend with this person, and remember to believe in yourself, no matter what they say. They are the one with the problem, not you.

Did you know?

95% of men who physically abuse their intimate
partners also psychologically abuse them.4
· Psychologically abusive men are more likely to
use a weapon against their partners, have prior
criminal arrests, abuse substances, and have
employment problems.5
· An employed woman with an unemployed
partner is more than twice as likely to be
psychologically abused by her partner.9
· Having a physical disability increases a
woman’s risk of psychological abuse by 83%.7
· Women who earn 65% or more of their
households’ income are more likely to be
psychologically abused.

How to stop it?

There is no answer. Today younger and younger people become cruel. It seems that people become more untolerative and more aggresive than in the past.

Maybe it's person's unconscious. Sometimes people can be very goo and friendly, but the same person can be very cruel....As Freud said that in our conscious sometimes everybody wants to kill mother or father. So, you don't lead all abusers to psychologist..... you don't stop them...but people should know more what to do that you don't be another victim of psychological abuse.